What Is a Femdom?

What is a femdom and why do you need one?

It started for you innocuously enough, a casual encounter. Last call, you and a handful of other guys were left at the bar with about a half dozen women. One of them had your eye all night. She looked like a bad girl, edgy, the kind you usually fall for.

Her tight jeans rounded the slit of her clit all night, so you were sure her pussy was dripping wet. Her tit nipples pushed against her tight white tee just waiting to be sucked. So when she ended up in your car on the way to your house, you were a horny, happy man. Of course, you knew just what you were going to be doing with her the minute you two walked through the door.

Well, surprise! You sure learned a thing or two about who was really in charge when she ended up being a femdom.

What Is a Femdom?

A femdom is the name given to a sexually dominant woman, particularly in the BD/SM fetish community, who instructs, commands or demands that her husband, partner or lovers submit to her.

Femdoms are also known as dommes, femdommes, dominas, or dominatrix. In a master/slave fetish relationship, the femdom is your mistress.

What a Mistress Does To You

What does a femdom do to you? She turns you on, for one thing. There really is no set of activities that predefine the broad sphere of female dominance, with one exception.  The femdom or female dominant always determines the actual activities within the context of a consensual sexual encounter.

A femdom can adopt a lightweight role play with you.  Here, you must ask permission before you can kiss her, suck her tits, finger her hole or otherwise arouse her. She may require you to follow her instructions.  Or she may forbid you, period, to do anything sexual to her or yourself, at all, for a defined amount of time. She may also make you masturbate for her while she directs and watches.

There are more intense and directed femdom sexual activities, including using a strap-on dildo. The femdom may simply want her submissive to give her a “blow job” or “hand job” or she may actually want to penetrate (pegging) the anus of the submissive partner.

From Intense To Extreme

Another directed, and equally intense, femdom practice is facesitting or smothering. Both focus on the submissive partner giving the femdom oral pleasure, either in clit-licking cunnilingus, or in an ass-licking rimming session. Both are where the femdom sits, stands or straddles over the submissive partner’s face. In the extreme case of smothering, the mistress makes controlling the amount of air and space, between her genitalia and the submissive’s face, part of the arousal.

An extreme element of the femdom fetish culture is the “coerced” feminization of a male partner, sometimes referred to as “sissy cuckolding.” This is where the submissive partner is virtually stripped of everything male about himself.  He may also be barred from having sex with his femdom at all. His sole sexual gratification is the result of masturbation while watching his femdom being penetrated by another man, if he is even allowed that. Or, alternatively, from sucking the cock of the man that is about to fuck his femdom. Femdom practices may also include orgasm denial, cock and ball torture, body worship, spanking, whipping, and the coerced chastity of her submissive.

Is Being a Submissive For You?

There may be nothing more appealing and arousing to you than the thought of a woman dominating you sexually.  Or, you may simply have a lingering curiosity about it. The femdom fetish culture allows for a myriad of intensities and practices, making it a safe and adventurous world for your exploration.

Have a discussion with your wife.  Besides, maybe, during your more traditional sex play, you’ve experimented with the femdom roleplay already. Maybe you are single and want to explore your role as a submissive to a femdom.  Search the internet, check the dating sites, or have a discussion with the women you date, to see if they share an interest in your fetish.

Start slowly, perhaps by having your wife or partner take charge during your next sexual encounter. Have her order you to do things to her, like eat her out or suck her tits. Lick her feet, ask her permission, submit to her every pleasure. If it turns into your best fuck session ever, then you may finally be in the fetish community where you belong.

If a femdom relationship is something you have fantasized about and are eager to pursue, then dive right in.  Get down on your knees.  Start now! There are hundreds of Mistresses out there that would like nothing better than to have you clean their asses with your tongue, or have you lick the soles of their feet clean. So, get at it!