Distance Domination 101

The reasons why many prefer distance domination are wide and varied. Ranging from convenience to budget and because there is a high degree of discretion. You can explore and play with like-minded people, all the while keeping your identity to yourself. But just because you may not share your legal name or location with us, doesn’t detract from the very intimate and impactful experience which is possible with a distance domination Mistress.  Today we are going to look at some basics to ponder when considering your distance domination session.

Planning Your Session

 
Your session planning doesn’t have to be long and drawn out.  The Mistresses have profiles with links to their blogs, so you can get a feel for their style. See what they write about your interests, and listen to their voices. Keep in mind the following.  Does her schedule and time zone conflict with your availability? What is it about her interests that attracts you? Was it a particular phrase in her profile? A post on her blog? Keep this in mind and use it in your first introduction.
 
When you find a Mistress who intrigues you and is available, give her an introductory call. On the other hand, you can jump in with two feet and get to the good stuff after a quick conversation that turns into a longer session.
 
Be prepared to talk about your level of experience and your interests.  What style of domination do you like or want to experience? From sensual to strict and even escalating from sensual to strict in one session, are all options depending on the Mistress. If you have a specific fascination, say strap-on sex, you can see if she also has a profile on our site  Strapon-femdom. For more about the various specialized kink Mistresses, you can visit our Phone Sex Boutique site, where our Mistresses may elect to have a profile. But don’t be daunted if you don’t see your favorite Mistress there. Just ask.  She may love it, but hasn’t listed a profile yet.
 

Introduction Session

 
You are now ready for your session! Or are you?  For your first sessions, you are going to be very nervous.  If things go well, you’ll be nervous every time you plan a session, because you’ve had so much fun and you are eager for more! It’s part of the fun. Take a deep breath, and dive in.
 
Plan an opening line.  Something you can easily say, so you don’t worry about stumbling over those first words. Pull out your reason above, when I asked you what interests you about her. “Mistress, I am (—). I love how on your profile you sensually command your submissives.  I was so happy you were available to chat.” In just those few words, you not only helped alleviate some of that tension you have been carrying, but you told Mistress a lot! But it didn’t tell her everything.
 

Be Honest

 
Mistress may ask you several questions, to get to know you. Be honest with Mistress and if you don’t know, say you don’t know. Do you have an idea of what you are looking for in your domination session? Examples could be: Edging, Cock control, Chastity training. Many enjoy pain or sensation play and Mistress is adept at adapting those for distance play. Perhaps you are so new to the world of domination that you just want to talk with her about your desires, or how she can help you with submissive training. Mistress is a great resource for many things, including what to buy for your toy box. All of these options and more are available for you with your distance domination session.
 
Many opt for a short and sweet first session of ten or 15 minutes, to meet ear to ear and see if you click with the Mistress of your choice. However, you are welcome to place a longer session as the Mistress’ schedule allows.
 

Distance Domination Must Do’s

 
It really is this easy to have a great distance domination session. A bit of communication and you are golden. Our experienced Mistress will weave her magic and make everything seem effortless.  To recap and provide an easy reference guide, keep these must-dos in mind.
 
Select a Mistress based on her personality and style and, of course, her beauty. Often guys get blinded by beauty and don’t read and find their desired sensual mistress is a no-nonsense, strict Mistress. There isn’t anything wrong with either of you, but your styles might not mesh.
 
Check schedules and availability. Nothing is more disappointing than falling in submission to a Mistress only to have your schedules never line up.
 
Know what you are looking for, or at least a general idea? Looking over the other articles here, what really turns you on? Or what turns you off?  You can start there. But don’t stop there.  Check out our other sites.  You just might find something very interesting!
 
Remember it’s always ok to say, “I don’t know,” or that you are unsure when Mistress and you negotiate your play. The same rules apply to distance domination. Safe, sane, consensual.
 

The Authentic You 

 
It is a misnomer that long-distance domination isn’t as intense as face-to-face play. This mindset does not hold true in the majority of our pets. In some ways, many are able to open up more and open up quickly. On one level, the confession is facilitated by the degree of anonymity you feel with phone sessions.  You will share more with us than anyone else. The feeling of vulnerability is very real when you confess. So of what importance is it, if we see your face, or know your legal name? We know your heart, desires, and the authentic you. It is Intoxicating.
 
Be honest about your boundaries to Mistress.  If you don’t want anal play, then state that as a hard boundary. Mistress appreciates knowing where the line is. That’s not to say you can’t change your mind down the road. It is common that once you have a certain level of trust, and bond with your Mistress, you might surprise yourself with how your mind may open up, and new or different desires bubble to the surface.
 
Lastly, deep breath and enjoy!