Do Femdoms Switch?

Let’s take a look at the question, “Do Femdoms Switch?”

As with most aspects of domination, the relationship between a Female Dominant and her sub develops over time. Partnerships in the BDSM community are often rather malleable, as the essence of the D/s relationship is a power exchange. FemDoms are no different in that respect and will, at times, entertain the idea of switching.

It’s not something everyone does.  As you know, we are all individuals.  Sometimes we make decisions on a whim.  It is a female prerogative, after all, to change our minds. Thus,  in the community of people who enjoy a D/s lifestyle, switching is possible for FemDoms, even Phone Mistress FemDoms.

What Does it Mean When Femdoms Switch?

Before we discuss that in more detail, lets talk about what switching really is.  Or, at least, a couple of different interpretations of it. Essentially, switching is when the dominant partner changes or switches places in the relationship with the submissive partner. This may or may not mean the dominant agrees to be submissive.  For one thing, the level at which they switch isn’t the same for everyone.

Ask one FemDom and she will tell you that switching means transferring her power to her submissive partner and allowing them to dominate her. She will agree to be a submissive partner, entirely, throughout the scene. Not requiring a moment of dominance, but instead permitting herself to be led by her now dominant partner. Other FemDoms will only switch within the guidelines of a role play. Maybe she will agree to let you get the upper hand for a bit, a true exchange of power that then switches back when she regains control. Either way, it is a switch and many dominant females are willing to play along.

Why Would She Agree to This?

As a submissive, you know that your Mistress is naturally superior to you in all ways, simply by existing.  So, you may be wondering, why she would ever agree to switch places with you. There is a very simple answer. She would never agree to that. There is no way she could ever, truly, be in your place. Just as you could never step into her sexy, thigh-high leather boots. *wink* You see, a dominant woman is secure in herself and her control. Whether she is standing above you with a whip and a strap on, teaching you about how to please your Mistress.  Or if she is on her knees, sucking your cock, she is still in control of the situation and she knows it.

Some women don’t realize that they have the ultimate control over men, no matter what the situation.  However, a FemDom knows she does! So, for her, switching with you is just something fun she has agreed to do! She isn’t forced in any way.  It is just a sexy power exchange.  A role she is playing as a submissive woman, to make your fantasy session more exciting. She doesn’t need to be validated by using her paddle on your ass.  She is confident in herself and her place. Further, being sexually adventurous, she’s happy to try something new as a submissive.

I Want To Ask Her To Switch, but How?

Now comes the part where you have to step up and grab your balls and ask her if she would consider switching. Remember, this is a relationship.  And like any relationship, there is a good time and a bad time to ask every question. You wouldn’t ask her to switch as she was fucking you with her new dildo.  Instead, inquire before your fantasy play starts or after it ends. This is the time to chat with your phone sex FemDom about what you want to do and try.  Also, this is the appropriate time to bring up a possible scenario where you switch places.

This should be done with the proper amount of respect, depending on your relationship with her.  By the same token, it should not be approached in a whiney or wimpy manner. Just ask. Your Mistress is perfectly capable of saying no, which you have witnessed first hand, if she’s not interested. Therefore, don’t worry about asking for what you want. Tell her what you’d like to try.  Ask her if she’s interested at all.  Let her know what about it appeals to you and just how you see the fantasy playing out.

This lets her know you are serious and she is more likely to discuss it with you and maybe, if you are very lucky, even agree. It’s worth it for you to try. And if you don’t think so, go back and read what I said about her sucking your dick.  Now, imagine anything you wish you could see her do, and think about her doing it in a switch situation. To repeat, go ask for what you want. Good Luck! *giggle*