Distance Domination Fundamentals [Or Walk Away!]

Distance domination phone sex can be very intense, and as transformative, as any in-person play.  So the same fundamentals apply. For one thing, play safely with ethical and experienced Mistresses.

Unless you are calling to enjoy domination phone sex fantasies (that’s ok too!), you should require these three fundamental rules or walk away.

We will take a look at both session types:  the one on one D/s play and fantasy play. Then share the three must-haves when you consider your long-distance domination session.

Domination Phone Sex Fantasy Sessions

Femdom Fantasy sessions are very popular. This type of session, funny enough, is much like any BDSM negotiation. Firstly, we talk about what you like, what you are interested in.  See if our styles mesh.  With the sexy details of your intimate share, Mistress can weave a fantasy or role play where you behave as the submissive, and she instructs as you are able.

She tells you what she would do with you, and suddenly switches to first person present in her talk. It becomes more real. But ultimately, most of the time, the fantasy is just that, with perhaps a bit of interaction on your part. Possibly, e.g., stroking along, or using toys as Mistress instructs.

Each session can be more of the same or elevated and changed by playing with various elements and scenarios. Often, with fantasy play, it’s very easy to get wild and let our imagination explode with possibilities!

Distance Domination Phone Sessions

You come to Mistress a trained or untrained submissive, looking to feel her real-time control. Typically, this control extends well beyond the session, and into the submissive’s day to day activities. So when your session ends, Mistress may send you off with rules to follow, and tasks to be done.

For example, the submissive’s sexuality can be closely managed with cock control and chastity. Other types of play are also popular, too. Sensation and pain play are both fan favorites for our submissive pain pets.  This can range from mild pain play to quite intense.  Domination through feminization is another popular session.

The gist of this is that you are filling your day with and without Mistress, while still serving her.  Maybe it is a good morning hello, meme, or another check-in, as Mistress desires. Each Mistress has her own boundaries and part of the fun is learning each others’ boundaries.  Nevertheless, she is controlling you.

First Must Have Fundamental

Reputation. Mistress is excited and interested in engaging you! For one thing, she may tease you with her experience, or her own desires as a Dominant and how you can fulfill them.  Her profile, website, and any social media she may be present on,  are great ways to learn about her style and personality.

Second Distance Domination Fundamental

Negotiation of play.  BDSM Negotiations, with distance domination,  can be well-fleshed out or quite casual. The important thing is to have that discussion. The intent is to have a respectful, intimate share of your desires and experience and limits. Mistress may inquire about your expectations and your hard limits.  This is a fun part of getting to know your Mistress and vice versa.

Every Mistress has her own style when it comes to negotiations.   But, most important, ensure she does ask about your desires and expectations. Red flag, and reconsider if she doesn’t, won’t, or refuses to discuss these things with you. 

Third Distance Domination Fundamental

Respecting boundaries and enjoying your sessions. Respecting boundaries goes both ways. As a submissive, you should take pride in the fact that you treat your Mistress with the utmost respect and deference.

Mistress, during play, should always respect your hard boundaries, as well. The time to discuss the possibility of moving hard boundaries should always be outside of the “Scene” or play. Always during  negotiation about sessions

Aftercare

Just as with negotiation, it can be a few moments of appreciation for how well you did.  Additionally, Mistress should ask how you are, and remind you to have some water.   Some types of distance domination sessions require various degrees of, and duration of, aftercare. But no intense pain play, humiliation, or other sexual play, should just end. It is always recommended to spend time sharing kinky pillow talk, if you will.

Now can also be a time for inspection.  All ok? Nothing rubbed, pinched, or slapped enough to require some attention? Mistress will send you off after she’s sure you are able to take care of yourself.

For More Information

Any of our Domination Phone Sex Mistresses are ready to answer your questions about your options when having domination phone sex with her. Don’t hesitate if you haven’t used a service “like this” before. We understand and welcome you to the Empire.