Why Do I Submit To a Femdom?

People ask me all the time why I submit to a Femdom.  So, I’m going to try to explain it here.

The world of female domination and male submission is one of those things that the outside world usually cannot understand. From the outside looking in, it’s hard to imagine why a man would relinquish all of his power and control to a woman. After all, aren’t men supposed to be the tough, strong ones?  The ones who take the lead in a relationship, while the women are the ones to be led? Or, if that’s not the paradigm you prefer, then shouldn’t relationships be equal? 50/50?

Ah, but the truth is, in all the history of relationships, there has never been a single one in which the power and control was truly split in half. In all relationships, one person or the other is the one who’s taking the lead. It may not always be the same person who does so. And there may not always be a time in which someone is in control.  Basically, the exchange of power exists, in some degree, in all relationships.

Why Submit To a Femdom?

Traditionally, men are “supposed” to be the ones to take the lead but, in fact, this is rarely what happens in practice. While most men in female-led relationships would not think of themselves as leading a BDSM lifestyle, in which they are submissives and their wives or girlfriends are Mistresses, it still remains that in many, many relationships, it is the female who takes control of the relationship.

And it seems to me that many of these guys, who would tell you in a heartbeat that they are not submissive, like it when their wives or girlfriends are the ones who take the lead. They don’t mind doing whatever in order to keep their significant others happy or to keep the peace. They prefer for their significant others to be the “responsible” parties, while they themselves are the “obedient” parties.

Submit To a Femdom: Codifying An Already-Existing Dynamic

I am one of those men who prefers to submit to a Femdom and for my partner to be the one in control. I’ve known this for a long time.  However, it took me several years to actually be able to articulate what I wanted. Shortly after that, I soon figured out that just having a de facto female-led relationship wasn’t enough for me. I wanted a relationship in which the woman was overtly in control of me. That’s when I began seeking a Femdom Mistress.

I knew that what I needed in my life was a woman who would not only control me, but would also be happy to do so. The thought of manipulating a woman into giving me what I needed, by making her think it was her idea all along, was repugnant to me. What I wanted was a woman who already knew that she was a dominant woman.  Someone actively seeking a submissive man with whom to have a relationship.

It was slow going at first. There are so many male subs out there, and the Mistresses are few and far between. I had to be patient. So while I was seeking a Mistress, I also went to BDSM parties, got to know people, and made friends.  I worked on learning things that could benefit a Mistress.  For instance,  I learned how to cook nice meals and how to give good pedicures and so forth.

Finding A Mistress Made It All Worth It

When I finally did find my Mistress, I saw that all the sacrifices I made to submit to a Femdom had been totally worth it. Mistress makes me happy, and I make her happy. I give myself to her because I understand that being submissive is my natural role in life.  Just as being dominant is hers.

I also trust her judgment completely. I know that she has my best interests at heart, even when she has me do something that I don’t necessarily want to do. She wants to help me grow, both as a person and as her slave, and I am eternally grateful to her for that.

In essence, being submissive to her is my life, and it’s a life I’m extremely proud of. I submit because it gives me a sense of peace and happiness, and she dominates me for the same reason. Being submissive is who I am and who I will always be. I know that I will never find this sort of fulfillment unless I submit to a Femdom, so here is where I will stay!